Be sensitive to trans, inter, and non-binary people: ask how people refer to themselves (name and possibly pronouns) and their body parts, respect pronouns without assuming the person’s gender, don’t just ask about genitals, surgeries, etc.
Verbal consent
Verbal consent applies here, which means:
- Feel free to actively and openly approach people if you are interested in them and ask them appropriately.
- Make sure before you start a play session that everyone involved is okay with it!
- Don’t touch people or gear/toys without asking first!
- No means no, respect that! Don’t ask again or keep asking!
- If people are talking in pairs or groups in the bar area, be considerate and ask if you can join them. It could be a negotiation or an aftercare conversation.
- You are always welcome to sit at the bar, and the person behind it will usually be happy to chat while they work 🙂
- General safewords in Quälgeist: Red and Mayday
- What happens at the party stays at the party. Do not out people as partygoers/kinky in other contexts. Only discuss your experiences or what you have seen with others anonymously.
Play area rules
- First, assume that everything that happens/you see has been agreed upon and is okay.
- Do not disturb others in their play session!
- Do not talk to people when they are in a session (including people who are playing alone and Orga people when the are in a play session).
- Do not comment on play sessions of others, not even with compliments or laughter.
- Do not talk in the play area if it is not part of a session. (Also longer negotiations should take place in the bar area.)
- Watching is generally okay
- Keep a respectful distance. If someone makes a “go away/keep your distance” gesture, comply without discussion. (will be demonstrated during introductions)
- Do not masturbate while watching without prior agreement.
- Do not open curtains or walk through a play area, even if a person is alone.
- Do not involve spectators in your play without asking them first.
- Disinfect play areas before and after use.
Send us your questions per e-mail: tin@quaelgeist.sm
